Marriage: Memorable Quotes on Submission

Precious Christian Wives,

I've gathered a number of excellent quotes from the Marriage Monday bloggers who linked here on Nov. 5. All of the entries were fantastic! If you're new to Chrysalis, be sure to take some time to glean from the wisdom quoted below.

Please join us here again next Monday Dec. 3, 2007. Our Marriage Monday topic will be: "What Makes A Marriage Christian?" Write your heart out and then come back and link up. But don't worry! More details will be included next week.

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Thanks, e-Mom

Surrendered for

Provision, Protection, and Love

"To submit in such a loving relationship is like watching the give and take of a windmill in the wind; the sand sliding on the beach, ever changing, but remaining the same as the ocean rolls; the clouds dancing to the highs and lows of the atmosphere; a flock of chattering birds following the edge of the lake; a well-trained dog on a leash. Beautiful. It is no wonder that we are encouraged to do so. When done properly it is like poetry and what a testimony to the Savior that we know."—Connie Marie at Living In Alaska

"Submission is like a dance. If you have ever seen a partner dance then you know there can only be one leader. If they both try to lead they step all over each other and they do not flow. Marriage is much like that. Ephesians 5 tells us to respect our husbands. We need to respect them enough to allow them to lead us in this dance of life."—Angela at Refresh My Soul Blog

"Now I know it can be hard to submit to a guy you see in his underwear every day, but can you TRUST him? Can you trust that the man who comes home to you each day, the man who has CHOSEN to share his life with you, the man whose own body warms you to sleep every night, has your best interests at heart? Can you love him enough to believe in him? He may not even think he has it in him, but if you do, he'll want to try harder. And when life tears him down and he needs a boost, he'll come running home to refill."—Tami at The Next Step

"If there is one thing out of line between a husband and wife it can hinder other things kinda like the body when your hip is out of line your back leans, your neck hurts, your shoulders will start to hurt and might even have trouble with your bowels. God created us to work a certain way just like he did the body and when one thing is out of line it affects all the others areas of your life."—Theresa at Far More Than Diamonds

"When you have the opportunity to see a marriage that exemplifies proper submission you can't help but notice what a beautiful thing you are beholding. You won't find strife, anger, bitterness, or anxieties in a marriage that is in proper alignment with God's precious Word."—Jessie at Overflow of a Forgiven Soul

"I personally believe the resistance and even pain that often comes from dealing with this whole concept of submission originates from a lack of knowledge. In reality, this mental fear of submission is actually a lie that Satan continues to try and deceive women with on a daily basis. The truth of the matter is, once we are able to grasp the concept that God has designed submission as part of His plan for our good, and for our protection, we will gain a lot of ground."—Susan at Forever His

"In my acquaintances with Christian wives I have discovered many believe submission is denying their own feelings, beliefs, and desires and giving control of their lives over to their husbands. They do this by stuffing down their convictions and force themselves to conform to their spouses desires.

There is a time when we as believers need to follow our husbands even if we disagree. However, following in this manner must be a mutual decision made with your entire heart and with the knowledge that it is best for the marriage and will allow love to grow."—Lynn at Spiritually Unequal Marriage

"The wife is responsible to take action. Some people subtly criticize the command to submission by wrongly interpreting it to mean ‘to lose motivation and sense of purpose.’ It is the other way around. She is to be full of attention and action. She is alert respecting her husband"—Lori at Living For the Simple Things in Life

"Financial matters are another area that submission is hard but necessary. Since I am the thrifty one in our relationship, my husband has to convince me that a little bit of pampering ourselves is acceptable… Each time I have told my husband I felt the trips were too expensive. Each time he has assured me they were not. As a result we have come away with a stronger marriage bond because of the investment we made in each other during our vacations."—Robyn at Overflowing Grace

"But life can get chaotic with two partners with the exact same authority. And when tough decisions need to be made and there's an impasse, someone needs to have the final say."—Tammy at Family Doin’s

"…a poor leader nitpicks each and every detail, a good leader steps back and lets the second do what he or she does best, guiding only when necessary. If my husband spent all his time undermining his boss’ authority he would likely lose his job or his boss would find himself holding extra tight to his authority or relaxing his leadership because he preferred not to battle."—Heather at Graced By Christ

"I know that many women are convinced that if they left things to their husbands, it would always be a disaster - that their husband isn't trustworthy, that he is a drunk, that he's not a Christian, that he's foolish. That may well all be true in your life. But submission isn't really about him - it's about you and God. It's about you, as a woman of God, placing your trust in God. It's about allowing him to be in complete control.—Lori at Simple Life at Home

"So what does submission mean? It means trusting your husband, letting him be the head of the house, not undermining his authority, but it also means letting him care for you as the most precious person in his life. It's the way marriage was meant to be."—Jana at Later, I'm Blogging

"Oh my! I wonder how many serious arguments might have been avoided in my home if I had always done things GOD'S way? Yes, submission my be hard at times, but isn't GOD'S way is SO MUCH BETTER THAN ours? I'm not speaking as one who thinks she's got it "together." I've learned over MANY years (15 years of marriage) and through much disobedience to GOD, that HIS WAY IS BEST"—Tonya at
Safe in His Arms

"I have been married for 13 years now, I love my husband very much and I fully understand how important it is to guard my marriage. As I look back and think of the friends that I grew up with I can only think of a few that are still married. I also have friends who after 20+ years have gone their separate ways and it breaks my heart. So I want to learn, I want to be aware, I want to be on guard and I want to love my husband as God desires me too."—Living Beyond Myself

"I need to first submit to God and then it will be extremely easier to submit to my husband."—Joyce at Creation In Progress

"God has blessed me with a godly man. I need to be a good steward of this gift. It is easier to submit when I keep that in the forefront of my mind."—Faith at Gold in the Clouds

Blogger's Book Recommendations

• Liberated Through Submission by P. B. Wilson by Susan at Forever His
• Created to Be his Helpmeet by Debi Pearl by Tonya at Safe in His Arms
• Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin by Lori at Simple Life at Home

My special thanks to Jan at Bold & Free and Kysha at Humble Mama for your unique contributions to this topic. And a huge thank you to Barbara at Downstowngirl for completing the Bible study!

Join the Carnival of Christian Women here. The next edition is at Dandelions and Daydreams on Dec. 1, 2007.

Up Next—Bible Study: Moses' Prophesy of Messiah

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